The Four Agreements

Contents

Introduction Smokey Mirror 1

Chapter 1 Domestication and the dream of the planet 1

Chapter 2 The first agreement be impeccable with your word 3

Chapter 3 Done take anything personally 4

Chapter 4 Don’t make assumptions 5

Chapter 5 Always do your best 5

Chapter 6 The Toltec way to freedom 6

The discipline of the young warrior 6

Chapter 7 The new dream 7

Introduction Smokey Mirror

Everything is God, human perception is light perceiving light. Matter is a mirror that reflects light.  The real us is pure light, but we live in a dream of matter. Smoke is the in between that stops us knowing what we are.

The smoke is the dream, and the mirror is you the dreamer

 

Chapter 1 Domestication and the dream of the planet

Perception is a dream, when we are awake there is a material frame that makes us perceive things in a linear way, when we go to sleep, we dream in a non-linear way.

Before we were born humans dreamed the social reality of the planet, the family , the community and many of the places in which we dream.

We are born into many rules, of social reality, of language of values. As soon as we agree we believe.

As children we agreed with what was passed to us from adults, we paid attention and we believe because we had faith that they were right

The only way to store information is by agreement, as soon as we agree, we believe and have faith.

Domestication of humans is the surrender to the beliefs of others, where we give it our agreement.

We are taught names for things, manners of behaviour. We are taught concepts, a man is xyz.

We are domesticated by a system of punishment and reward, initially externally but then we do it to ourselves.  We can become afraid either of punishment or of not receiving reward.  Attention is reward

We start pretending, to please others to get rewards from them. We pretend as we fear being rejected. We become a copy of the people we are trying to please, Mum, Dad, society.

Our belief system as the book of law that rules our mind.

Our internal Judge uses the book of law, that we have created

We have an inner judge of ourselves and others

We have an inner victim who is judged

 

If you challenge the book of law you feel fear and unsafe.

We agreed to the book of law and if we challenge them\break them, we feel guilt and shame

 

Justice: pay once for each mistake

Injustice: paying repeatedly for each mistake

Memory enables us to punish ourselves multiple times.

 

Living in hell, the fire of unpleasant emotions, in a fear-based world.

 

Perfection is the image of good enough, for someone else, e.g. Mum/Dad.

 

We try to be who we are not to please others and get rewards, but then we reject ourselves and others as we fall short of this.

 

If someone abuses, you less than you abuse yourself you will stay with them

 

We use our power to build our agreements then to keep them, every day.

 

Agreements that come from fear deplete our energy, those that come from love increase our energy.

 

Chapter 2 The first agreement be impeccable with your word

Your word is your creative power.  Your intent is manifest through your word.  Words are magical, have power can create heaven or hell.

The human mind is a fertile ground where seeds are continually being planted.

Seeds are opinions ideas and concepts.

Impeccable is without sin. A sin is anything that goes against yourself.

Going against yourself is judging or blaming yourself for anything(!).

When you are impeccable you take responsibility for your actions but do not judge or blame yourself.

Responsibility is how I act to you will have an effect, so if I’m mean to you, you will be mean to me, responsibility is to accept I have done this.

 

Gossip is the worst black magic

Gossiping makes someone else feel as bad as we do.

Gossip can be compared to a human virus.

 

What you say, and your motive for saying, and what you are doing by saying.

Mitote a thousand different voices trying to speak at once.

We may lie, and spread disinformation to hurt someone, to get revenge.

We use the word against us, being critical. We use the word against loved ones to get others to agree with our point of view.

 

Impeccability of word comes from self-love. Self-love and integrity of word are reciprocal the more of one the more more of the other.

White magic to enhance black magic to shrink.

 

Chapter 3 Done take anything personally

Next 3 agreements are outcomes of the first, be impeccable with your word.  Taking things personally means you agree with what has been said, or you fear that this might be the case.  But the other person says what they say from their experiences near and far, and for their motivations. 

Personal importance means everything is about me, me me!

 

When you take things personally, then you need to defend yourself and you create conflicts.  You need to be right and everyone else is wrong.

 

What I say cannot hurt you, it is only that it touches your wounds , you are hurting yourself.

You see me through your movie, where you are the director and main actor.

Don’t take anything personally: but what we are is a result of taking things personally, we learn about ourselves through our relationships.

Noise in our head, ours, allies (gods), introjects, we have a choice as to whether to listen to it.

Mitote: all the different parts talking

Every agreement is like a separate living being.

Humans don’t know what they want as part of their mind wants one thing, and another part wants something completely different

People lie as they are afraid of not being perfect.

 

Chapter 4 Don’t make assumptions

We make assumptions and believe they are the truth.

Gossiping is how we transfer poison to each other

We assume what is going to happen, we assume people know what we want. We assume everyone sees the world the way we do.

We need to understand everything to feel safe, and we therefore make assumptions as there are many things we don’t know.

 

Chapter 5 Always do your best

Always do your best but remember that that changes from moment to moment. Your best will be better first thing in the morning than last thing at night.

Neither underdo (frustration, guilt) or overdo (stress) just do your best.

Do you best because you love taking the action.  If you work for the reward, then you resist work and don’t enjoy it.

If you act for the sake of doing it, then every action is enjoyable.

Doing your best (which can vary during the day) means you free yourself from the Judge. 

Do what you want to do, do it to your best ability.

Action is about living fully; inaction is about denying life.

The first three agreements only work if you do your best.

 

Chapter 6 The Toltec way to freedom

The judge judges the victim against the book of rules, so humans are not free. They imprison themselves and imprison their free child.

The warrior as a war of the judge, victim and book of rules.

3 ways to kill the parasite

1.       Destroy it

a.       Face our fears

2.       Don’t feed it

a.       Refrain from fuelling the emotions that come from fear

3.       Kill it

a.       Kill the parasite whilst retaining the host

 

The discipline of the young warrior

Heal emotional wounds by forgiving those that have wronged us, not because they deserve it but because we don’t want to keep on suffering.  I will no longer beat myself up, I will no longer reduce my self-esteem, I will no longer be a victim.

Forgive others and then forgive yourself.  To get to the free human, forgiveness is key.

Denial system covers wounds and allows us to survive.

Emotions control behaviour not humans.

When we lose control, we say things we don’t mean to say and do things we don’t mean to do.

The warrior is in a spiritual war, its major weapon is awareness, awareness of the emotions, the awareness to be ourselves.

Refrain: hold emotions in and express them at the right moment.

Be yourself or please other people.

Every day you awake, I am still alive, one more day to be myself.

The angel of death can teach us to live as if today is our last day

The angel of death owns everything you have, but you are allowed to use it when you are alive

 

Chapter 7 The new dream

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